You're the one people call when things get real.
In a crisis, you're the clearest person in the room. In a boardroom, you're untouchable. In a negotiation, under pressure, in the middle of someone else's breakdown, you show up. Every time. Without fail.
And then you get home.
As a result, something shifts.
You snap at the person you love most over something that doesn't matter. You snap at the person you love most. On top of that, you disappear into your phone when your kid is right in front of you. You go through the motions of a life that looks perfect from the outside and feels hollow from the inside.
You lie in bed at night running the day and wondering why, with everything you've invested in, you still can't seem to close this gap.
You're not lazy. You're not broken. You're not failing.
In fact, you're not failing at all. You're full.
And no matter how hard you try you end up stuck in the same loop again.
And because of that, nobody around you has the range to see all of it at once.
I do.
If you are self-aware but still stuck, this is the call to make.
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One on one. Discreet. NDAs are standard.
I work with a small number of private clients, if you want direct support.
If you're someone who wants easy access to a person who can see every layer of your system at once and help you shift it in real time.
Call me, I will make myself available.
We're going to talk about what needs to change so you stop burning your life down to keep your performance up.
Brooklyn in the 70s. Crack epidemic. HIV in NYC. Social unrest.
Slashed in the face with a boxcutter, told Iβd be blind by 40 (Iβm 54). Thirty years of insomnia.
Iβve seen some shit.
With nearly 25 years as an ER nurse in New York City nights. Gunshots, overdoses, panic attacks, everything. That forged in me a deep empathy and a very practical respect for human limits.
Patching people up wasnβt enough. I wanted to help them thrive instead of just survive.
I have clocked 35 years as a nurse. Decades as a trainer and coach. Trained over 300 therapists and coaches on emotional capacity in their practices.
One through-line in all my work β capacity.
That's the one thing I've seen in every room I've ever been in, the ER, the coaching room, and everywhere in between.
If you have done a lot of work, are self aware and still stuck...call me.


The YOUniverse β My ongoing community for self-aware people who are still stuck.
Under the Hood β My blog. Capacity, burnout, relationships, performance.
Retreats β In-person immersive work.
Talks & Trainings β For organizations and thought leaders.
"Tired of doing the deep work in a vacuum. Excited to be amongst peers."
"The Capacity Training on Zoom blew me away. I really need this next step. I was feeling stuck."
"I feel less focused on managing life and more available to experience it. I was self-aware but still stuck. Now, I am less consumed by stories and more connected to sensation."
"My dysfunctional childhood taught me how to perform to fit in. It has utterly disconnected me from my true self. I'm here to flow with my own life from the inside out."

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